The Truth about Friendships

I wish everything was sunshine and rainbows in my neck of the woods but right now it isn't. 

We are going through a little bit of a trying time.

I don't really know where to begin or really what to say. 

Friendships are tricky.

It takes being a good friend to have a good friend. 

It is not about believing the lies or convincing yourself you are doing the right things.

It is actually about doing the right things!

Having a 5th grader in the house I hear a lot about friendships. They seem to have a new "best" friend every single day of the week. They are learning boundaries. They are learning what they can do and what they can say. They are learning that being a friend is hard work. It takes time and patience. It takes doing a lot of the wrong things to learn what is right. It means using your moral compass to guide you into friendships that are worth it. 

To show a child what it takes to be a good friend you have to show them with your own friendships. 

Friendships should be valued and not taken for granted. 

Friendships shouldn't be tossed away because of another friend or because they have a new boyfriend or girlfriend.

Unfortunately, the adults in my Little Man's life are not proving to be a good example. 

I wish I could protect Jacob from them but I cannot. 

But I can teach him. 

I can talk to him.

I can show him love when he isn't feeling it from others. 

I can read to him about friendships. 

I can show him how to grow as friend. 

I can teach him to be kind.

I can teach him to think of others before himself. 

So today if you could say a little prayer for my Little Man.

Pray that even through difficult times and others bad decisions he can choose to do the right thing.

Adult … who me?

The other day my friend and I were talking about being adults. Since I will be 30 in 6 days and since she has already turned 30 we felt that this was an appropriate topic to talk about. Our question really turned out to be … when do you start feeling like an adult?

I guess for me I always thought that when I graduated from college I would be an adult but as of right now I still haven’t graduated yet. So that cannot be it.

Then I was thinking that when I had a child I would be an adult but I had Jacob relatively young so maybe that is why I don’t feel like an adult.

I thought that reaching the ripe old age of 30 would make me an adult but I don’t really feel that coming on as of yet.

I thought that having a mortgage and bills to pay qualified you as an adult but since I have had a mortgage, now rent, and I am filling bankruptcy and I don’t yet feel like an adult I know that cannot be it.

So what is it … What qualifies you as an adult? OR Does anyone ever actually feel like an adult?

I guess my *new* theory is that you can do adult things but never honestly feel like an adult.

I know that when I walk into parent teacher conferences I feel like I just don’t belong as if I am not really old enough to be there.

I still call my Mom whenever I need advice or just to have girl talk.

I still like going out with my wonderful girlfriends and dancing the night away to some local band at a local bar.

So what gives? When am I going to feel like a grown up?

Do you feel like you are an adult? When did you start feeling that way? Please share with me your thoughts.

I know Donna and I never reached a conclusion to our conversation.